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Re-introduction Hi! My name is Tobi Ojenike. Welcome (back) to my blog. In a bid to get this blog back on its feet, I have decided to share my Youth Service year story here. This is the ‘plainest’ I can get and the words used here are exactly how I felt. And I lost most of the pictures but I’ll put up some of them that I could find.  Before Camp I had always wanted to serve in Abuja. I would tell anyone that cared to listen that I wanted to go to Abuja. So when I was filling out the online form, I chose all the Northern states, that I had visited them, except Abuja, hoping I’d get posted there. Eventually, I was posted to Adamawa State. I was numb when I saw the posting, I was neither happy nor sad. I knew that whatever I did at that point mattered less and I would have to go to the mandatory three weeks camp. However, my camp was in Bauchi State. So I did not really go to Adamawa till the end of my service year 😉   Service year started from January, 16th to be precis

It had been two months since I last heard from 'Lolu, again. Yes, again! He was fond of not keeping in touch and blaming it​ on me. So this time, I was not surprised. I was expecting it, especially after I literally here him out of my hotel room. In an unusual way, I was getting used to it. I was getting used to not having spoken to him in what I considered to be a really long time.   I had been deep in thought after I told him to leave my hotel room that day. A million and one thoughts flew through my head; ranging from how much of Akinlolu's disrespect I had put up with over the years, how it took me so long to realize this to how I boldly confronted him and asked him to leave me and my life.   The deed had been done and thinking about it was not going to change anything, so I turned off my phone and went to bed. Eleven am the next morning, I was on a flight bound to Lagos from Abuja. I was pleased to an extent, that I would be away from Akinlolu for a while.  that I was b

Hello. So I decided to switch things up for the blog and I came up with this topic. I had a chat with three guys on a series of What Would you Do' questions? All usernames are Twitter handles. The guys: Bolu Ayeye-  @bolu_ay Timi Badiru-  @timi_alli Tobi Kode-  @fxckore 1. What would you do if you caught your best friend in bed with your babe? Bolu- It's over. I'd cut them both off, tho I'd find out when it started and how it happened. I'm a curious person Timi- I won't talk to any of them again Tobi- Wow, that one is sure going to be hard and painful. I'll break up with her. Over time I would settle with my best friend 2. What would you do if you walk into a restaurant and the person you're supposed to see is on a date with someone else? Bolu- Lmao, I'd call the person and ask what happened or excuse the person and ask. No point making a scene, it's hard to swallow sha. Timi- Wow. I will text her or still walk up to her if she's

'What are you doing here?', was all I could say when I saw 'Lolu at the doorway of my hotel room. I was surprised to see him. We had not spoken in almost two weeks and I had not informed him of the show I was hosting that evening. Running through my mind was how he knew where I was and how the hotel staff let him in, without even informing me. I suddenly realized I was in my bath robe which cut low to my belly button. I let go of the door and held on to my robe. 'Is that how you say hi to your boyfriend whom you have not spoken to in two weeks?'. He paved his way inside and sat on my bed. His right elbow had been on the doorpost with his head down which for a moment had me thinking he was not okay, until he raised his head and came into the room. 'Well technically, you are not my boyfriend', I said as I turned to him. Realizing I was almost naked with the door open, I quickly shut the door behind me. The tiles felt very cold. I did not know if it was the a

Hello In my previous post, I mentioned the various reasons why people go into a relationship, or why people start dating. But this time, I'd be addressing the reasons why most relationships fail. Relationships fail due to many reasons. Here are some of them: Distance: Too many relationships have failed as a result of the distance between both parties. Distance they say makes the heart grow fonder, which is why being apart from your partner for a very long time can be disheartening. In most cases, one or both parties end up being unfaithful and the relationship has to come to a sad end. In other cases, the other partner finds and falls in love with a 'better' person and there relationship comes to an end. However, if your partner would not be away for a very long time, you can always work something out. Most people in this situation always tend to have a 'Plan B'. Money: Money! Money! Money! It always has to be money! If girls (or guys, as the case may be) that g

Hiii! Interesting topic we have here So a few days ago, I was talking with a friend of mine and there and then, I came up with a list of why girls have boyfriends. I believe people have different reasons for being in relationships, especially the ladies. These reasons vary from one person to another and from one relationship to another. Here are the 5 reasons I believe Ladies go into a relationship: Status Some girls just somehow love the status of 'girlfriend' and do not even care who the boyfriend is. I mean they do not take all the 'necessary' into consideration. Such girls are always excited to say, 'I also have a boyfriend!' and are mostly the ' desperados ' or girls who have been single for a very long time. Money Its no longer news that some girls go into a relationship because of what the guy has to offer. They are basically after the money that this guy has and refer to themselves as 'high maintenance babes'. In other word

Final Episode Fola was at bay, I was safe and sound with no need for checking the rearview mirror if someone was following me. Work was ecstatic and happiness filled my life again. I now had a driver who I didn't really need. His name is Frank but I call him Ted because he looks like Ted from the movie Ted. I got promoted at work too; Mum had returned home and I now had my life to myself. All these must have been believed to have happened overnight. But nothing, they say happens overnight. Six months is not overnight. Six months later and I was still Segun's girlfriend. Six months later and my whole life was about to change forever.   Tiara was still at her former position but we were still very good friends. Anytime I misbehaved, she would bring up Fola's issue just to put me in check. Chiamaka wanted to finally come back to Nigeria having completed her PhD about two months ago., that prompted me into getting my PhD too, I enrolled at Leeds. Segun, being an entrepreneur

Episode 9   After service the next day, Mum and I stopped on our way home at a grocery store. I was quite uncomfortable all through the time we spent at the store because oh well...my mother asked the Pastor to pray for me concerning Fola's matter and that didn't just sit well with me. Why would she just divulge my personal life to our Pastor and even ask him to pray for me? Did I tell her I needed prayers? She was an angel just yesterday but right now she is just pissing me off. That's one of the reasons I just didn't want to tell her anything.   'Let's go Toun', the sound of her voice almost took away my anger. I was totally lost in thought. I glanced across the counter to the cashier, then back to the shopping basket my mother was carrying. I collected the basket and headed towards the car. She tipped the sales girl who helped her with the other bags and sent her off. I was about getting into the passengers seat when she handed the key to me and said,