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Common Causes of Relationship Breakups

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In my previous post, I mentioned the various reasons why people go into a relationship, or why people start dating. But this time, I'd be addressing the reasons why most relationships fail.

Relationships fail due to many reasons. Here are some of them:

Distance: Too many relationships have failed as a result of the distance between both parties. Distance they say makes the heart grow fonder, which is why being apart from your partner for a very long time can be disheartening. In most cases, one or both parties end up being unfaithful and the relationship has to come to a sad end. In other cases, the other partner finds and falls in love with a 'better' person and there relationship comes to an end. However, if your partner would not be away for a very long time, you can always work something out. Most people in this situation always tend to have a 'Plan B'.

Money: Money! Money! Money! It always has to be money! If girls (or guys, as the case may be) that go into a relationship for money as discussed in my previous post do not get enough of it, the relationships will eventually crash. Not only will it crash, it will have side attractions like, rumors about you not having enough money, tainting of image and all sorts. So money is the basis of your relationship, I am very sorry but it will most likely crash someday when the money is no longer there or not as much as it used to be. Girls or guys in this category won't waste any time in breaking up with you.

Pride/Ego: Stop feeding your ego! Let go of your pride! I spoke to a number of guys who told me the reason they had to breakup was as a result of pride, on the side of their partner. It was either, 'she doesn't apologize', 'she is too proud' or even 'she thinks she is better than me'. I am in no way supporting the guys. I clam our for equality and I know a number of girls who give these same reasons too. Swallow your pride Brethren and Sistren or it will ruin your relationship!

Infidelity: Cheating is a serious issue in relationships and it takes two mature adults to often look past a case of infidelity and move on with the relationship. I wrote a post sometime ago about flirting and cheating and judging by the answers I got, flirting leads to cheating. When you start deleting messages, changing contact names and even locking your apps from your partner, then you are cheating. I know we all need privacy in a relationship but at the same time, secrecy should not be given a place. Cheating is a cankerworm in relationships and it breaks it faster than any other factor.

Incompatibility: This stems from lust or infatuation which was considered to be Love. Being obsessed with a person or being fascinated by their presence does not equate love. Love transcends beyond emotions and sometimes, it can be incomprehensible. Thee foundations of a relationship really matter as it is what you build other things upon as you progress with your partner. It is important to have a clear grasp of your feelings and emotions before saying you love someone. Be compatible with your partner. If its lust or infatuation, then you two are headed for a love wreck.

Did I miss any other reason? Do leave a comment and let me know.
Happy Sunday!

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