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The eX Factor

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Hi guys! So yesterday I decided to dust and clean up my blog which I have 'abandoned' for some months now. It's for the good of us all. I promised to post today something very interesting and probably, debatable.The topic for today's discuss is 'The eX factor', as stated above.
Most teenagers and even youths have at least one ex-boyfriend or girlfriend and in most cases, some people can't seem to deal with break-ups, emotional trauma, psychological disorder and 'the eX factor'. This simply means, keeping up with your ex can be quite tasking and frustrating. So today, I'll drop a few tips on how to deal with break-ups and your EX.



How to deal with a relationship break-up; 

-The first thing to learn from a break-up is the fact that life continues. The fact that your boy/girlfriend left you does not mean life has come to an end. You were doing fine before he/she came to your life, what is stopping your life from existing after the person left you. One thing about this life is that people will leave you. If your friends and relatives can leave this world (with no hope of you seeing them anytime soon) and you are doing fantastically well without them, how much more someone who is still alive. You sure can live your life!
-Secondly, even if it the relationship came to an end because of you or by your act, brace up and accept it. Don't push the blame on your ex. Nobody wants to take the blame for what is not their fault. If it was your fault, accept it. And don't spread unnecessary rumours about your ex being the guilty one. We all make mistakes. Whatever we are is as a result of our attitude(s) towards such mistake(s).
-Fight it off! Loose up after a break-up, don't be moody. You can't do that forever! Hangout with friends, go watch a movie, go shopping, watch football matches with friends, have fun. Life is too short to cry over spilt milk.
-If your ex is worth fighting for, go for it! Accept your fault and ask for forgiveness. Let go of your ego. If you really want the relationship even after it has crumbled, rebuild and repair it. It will strengthen the bond you had before and create room for trust.
-Don't be too eager to get into a new relationship. Most ladies tend to go out with their ex's friend or family member after they have gone their separate ways. In most cases, such ladies do this with the intent of making the guy jealous, then he realises his mistake and comes back to them, even if the lady is the guilty one. You can't afford to repeat the mistakes you made in your previous relationship in this new one, so carefully select your next partner.


How to deal with your EX;

I know it is quite tasking getting over a past relationship, especially when your ex lives close by or if you still have pictures of him/her.
-If your mind doesn't let go of your ex, don't ever let him/her go. 'It's crazy how your heart just has a mind of it's own'...I guess we know that song. Your heart and mind can never be wrong when it comes to relationship issues. My mother rings it in my ears as often as she gets the opportunity, 'Once you fail in marriage, you fail in everything'. Your ex might be your future partner, who knows?!
-Keep your distance from your ex. There's this quote I came across sometime ago; I won't really call it a quote but it is something like that. It reads; 'You can't be 'just friends' with someone you were once in love with'. In other words, your ex can never ever be your friend. Your ex should never be your friend. But, don't make him/her your enemy. Be wise in your dealings with your ex so it does not ruin your new relationship.
-Tell your new partner all about your ex. This is very very important especially if you had sexual relations. It is very important your new partners knows about your past relationship(s) so as not to create problems especially for yourself.

I am so glad I got to share this with you and I hope it helps.Don't forget to leave a comment. Thank you for reading, have a most wonderful day!
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  1. Rami29 October 2015 at 13:42

    this is really nice to read..informative post is very good to read..thanks a lot!
    ex factor guide

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